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Latarnia wrote:

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I actually would not recommend just up and leaving for anyone who has been cheated upon. These issues are far to complex for such a black and white action/reaction. People have come together after such things, with a greater understanding and love for each other. Not saying that's the norm (it isn't), but still.


Mirek

I would agree with this, but it definitely takes a strong and confident person to make such a choice. My hat would be off to those who would be able to struggle through such a challenge, because I know in myself that I lack that kind of inner strength and would never be able to forgive such an act, even though as you say, it's a complex situation which ultimately can have many reasons for happening.

Latarnia wrote:

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What if your cheating partner said, "I'm truly very sorry for what I did. To make it up to you, and to show you how much I love you and how much I want us to be together, I will let you do anything you want with me one night a week for the rest of our life. Anything you want, and I will accept it without protest."


Mirek

I think for me, it's the fact that she has shared this kind of intimacy with someone else, during the time that we were together, that I would not be able to put out of my mind. Every time we did this "special thing," I would imagine that she had been doing this exact act, with someone else, behind my back. The trust would be broken, and I'm not sure I could regain it, and without trust there is nothing. I will admit, like Ben, I have very limited experience in all of this. I was married at 20, and we were together since I was 17, so there wasn't a ton of "experiences" before this relationship. I can really only base my mindset on this relationship, in which my wife and I are so close and have such a good union, that if such a thing were to happen to us, it would be so far of out of left field that I would be completely devastated.